Understanding True Love and Determining If You Are Ready for It

True love makes the world go round because it’s the binding force between relationships at any level. Love can lead to friendship, unity, and intimacy. However, the quality of love would determine its durability. Particularly, as regards that kind that’s behind the romantic feelings between opposite sexes, let me try to describe what love is and what it’s not. It may not be as simple as it’s depicted in movies or in novels. Indeed it’s more complicated than the feel good attribute of romantic seasonals.

Love is sacrifice – When you agree to love someone, it means you don’t mind ‘loosing yourself’ in the process. It connotes that you don’t mind letting-go of certain things that are dear to you. Love is sacrifice!

Love is commitment – Not a convenience, because it’s going to place a lot of demand on you. Love is not convenient at all, you’ll have to stretch in order to please the other person. But, if it’s true love, that inconvenience becomes a pleasure that you can live with sustainably.

Love is being objective – It’s not just a feeling or obsession that comes on you and you could not sleep. Whenever you cannot separate feeling from objectivity in relating with someone, it’s a mere infatuation. Love demonstrates a great deal of emotional maturity, which is doing the right thing irrespective of your feeling.

Love is responsibility – It means, to give, to care and to help. In another sense, to be responsible means to bear the consequences of your action. There is consequence for every action, including sex. Are you ready for responsibilities?

Love is complex – It takes more than love to sustain love, that is why divorce rate is on the increase. People start from what seems to be love but in a short while they break-up because there is no sustenance.

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Love is a decision – Decision involves your reasoning faculty. That means, you’re thinking clearly, you know what you’re doing, you’re not crazy! Aren’t you surprised that couples who are once crazy about each other, later become cold? True love is what remains after the craze has fizzled out.

Love is not sex – No it’s not!. Otherwise prostitutes would be in love and not in the trade. Sex is just one of the many aspects of love, ask married people. Though your hormone is raging, you have to learn how be in control. That’s the difference between humans and animals; you have a good sense of judgment, purpose and direction. Your hormone is not in control, you are!

Love resembles lust – Yes, that’s why it’s not easy to distinguish between true love and lust at the onset. lust can’t wait to get but love can wait to give. You’d often hear, "if you really love me, you will proof it." That is the language of lust. Love is not touching, feeling, romancing, smooching, kissing, sexing or sexting. True Love wants to see you blossom into a responsible adult, he or she also wants to be committed, responsible, and ready to sacrifice their conveniences. So true love would not mind to wait till that time, but lust wants to have you now.

Where am I going with all those description? I’d like you to adjudge yourself, as a teenager, are you really ready for love now? By a witty estimation, we could easily conclude that a teenager does not have the capacity to handle romantic/marital love. He/she is not ripe for the commitment, dedication, sacrifices, and decision-making that’s required. A teenager is not matured enough to combine the burden of love with that of schooling. Maturity must be attained in financial, emotional, social, spiritual, physical, and psychological aspects of life before someone could be said to fully understand what love is.

So the next time someone comes around saying he/she loves you, run for your heart and your career because he/she can’t be serious. Even you, may sincerely feel you are in love with that person but on a close consideration of the complexities of true Love, you’d discover you can’t be serious. However, if you think you are, the only proof would be that you don’t mind waiting till both of you reach maturity and follow the due process.

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