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How to Stop Child’s Bedwetting Finally
What you’re about to read has the potential to end your child’s bedwetting issue totally forever; be warned! When a grown up child bed wets, you cannot but feel annoyed and disappointed. This feeling is further aggravated by the fact that other children, close by, who are not as old as the one in question no longer bed wet. You’re so conscious of the embarrassment it could cause if the child has to spend a night in a summer camp, boarding house or with relatives.
How You’ve been Trying to Stop Your Child’s Bedwetting
Well, I’m writing to show you more effective ways to stop bedwetting than the usual methods. Frustration tends to set in when all your efforts at helping the child out of the issue seem unsuccessful. You have been…
- Ensuring s/he eats dinner early enough
- Waking him/her up to urinate at night
- Applying punitive measures
- trying medical solution
- Ensuring s/he plays moderately during the day.
While the above common methods are remarkable, they’re not effective because the real problem might be far from being addressed. In fact the burden those methods impose on parents is heavy. Hence, anger and frustration are inevitable on a day of break in consistency and the ensuing relapse to bedwetting.
Brief Analysis of Bedwetting Problem
If your child, while awake usually goes to the right place to urinate whenever s/he feels the stimuli then we could downplay the possibility of the problem being medical. Medical or unorthodox treatment will not work where the problem is psychological. Most of the bedwetting issue is actually psychological.
Without sounding technical, what we are dealing with is an aspect of brain under-development and mental laziness. While the child’s brain is developing, the aspect responsible for prioritizing objective decision over the pleasure of conveniences (like sleep) seems to take the back seat. If that aspect of the brain is not activated when the bladder needs to be emptied during sleep, the child will not take the required action. Especially because the brain has habitually learnt to succumb to the stimuli of sleeping pleasure.
Until there is an intervention to help the child’s brain unlearn the lazy inaction under the overbearing pleasantness of sleep – and learn to adjust the priority – the child will not respond timely and will continue to bed wet.
Set the Objectives to End Your Child’s Bedwetting
Now, following are the things we want to make happen to put a lasting end to bedwetting…
- Help the child’s brain to learn to respond promptly to the stimuli of urinating during sleep,
- Help the brain learn to endure momentary inconvenience taking the appropriate action and achieve a greater good, and
- Help his/her brain to prioritize the greater good of not bedwetting over the pleasure of a continuous sound sleep.
Take these Actions to End Your Child’s Bedwetting Completely
- CREATE EASE OF ACCESS TO THE RESTROOM
- DISCUSS THE OBJECTIVES WITH YOUR CHILD
- SET ALARMS TO WAKE HIM/HER UP
It is important that the distance between the bedroom and the restroom is as short as possible. The awareness that one could get up to ease themselves and return to continue sleeping within a very short time keeps one motivated to do the needful. So, ease of access to the restroom is a main step in helping your ward to overcome bedwetting.
Having done the above, go ahead and discuss with the young fellow. Make him/her understand the objectives; the merits of complying; and the consequences of relapsing. Find out if your child/ward is scared of walking alone to the restroom at nights. Deal with that fear and increase ease of access to the restroom.
Yes, you can trust a powerful bedside (not the phone type) alarm system to be consistent and take the burden of waking them at nights off you. The alarm could go off three times all through the night depending on the severity of the issue. But you have to encourage him/her to get up to urinate each time the alarm goes off. If this could be done consistently for three months, at least three things would have happened. The child’s brain would have adjusted it’s prioritization; learn to take prompt action; and form a new habit.
After three months, reduce the frequency of the alarm gradually. You should also disengage it sporadically till it is outrightly withdrawn. By now, the child must have been able to take pleasure in getting out of sleep to urinate instead of bedwetting.